How the Mirror Works
Your friends see you differently than you see yourself.
Here's exactly how we help you discover what they see - safely, anonymously, and scientifically.
5 minutes total
Completely anonymous
Science-backed
The Complete Process, Step by Step
Choose Your Mirror
Select from psychology-based assessments designed by experts:
Big Five Personality
The gold standard - discover your openness, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism.
Johari Window
Reveal blind spots - what you know vs. what others see in you.
Shadow Work
Based on Carl Jung - explore unconscious patterns and projections.
You answer first
15-20 questions about yourself. Your honest self-perception becomes the baseline for comparison.
Friends get your link
We generate a unique, anonymous link just for you. Share it however you want.
howiseem.com/friend/abc123
Share Your Mirror
Your friends answer the same questions about you. Here's what makes it work:
No signup required
Friends click, answer, done. Zero friction.
Takes 2-3 minutes
Quick enough that people actually do it.
Completely anonymous
They don't see what you answered. You don't see who said what.
See Your Reflection
Once you have at least 3 responses, the magic happens:
Your blind spots
Qualities others see that you don't recognize in yourself.
Your hidden strengths
Positive traits you undervalue or miss completely.
Your growth insights
Specific areas for personal development and self-awareness.
Your complete mirror
Beautiful visualizations showing how you see yourself vs. how friends see you, with actionable insights for growth.
Privacy & Security Built In
What you see:
- • Your complete results and insights
- • Anonymous patterns and trends
- • Comparison charts and visualizations
- • Growth recommendations
What friends see:
- • Nothing after they submit
- • No access to your results
- • No way to see other responses
- • Complete anonymity guaranteed
Your friends help you see yourself clearly.
Then they forget. You remember forever.
The Psychology Behind the Mirror
Why this works:
Research in social psychology shows we have massive blind spots about ourselves. The "introspection illusion" means we think we know ourselves better than others know us - but studies prove the opposite is often true.
Big Five Research
Used by psychologists worldwide for 30+ years. Measures the five core personality dimensions that predict behavior across cultures.
Johari Window Theory
Developed by psychologists in 1955. Maps the difference between self-knowledge and external perception.
Jungian Shadow Work
Carl Jung's framework for understanding unconscious patterns and projections in personality.