Comfortable with intimacy and independence
You if Secure: Relationships feel natural and balanced. You communicate your needs clearly, trust your partner, and maintain your own identity. You handle conflict well and recover from breakups healthily.
In relationships: "I love you and I trust this will work out. Let's talk about any issues."
Craves closeness but fears abandonment
You if Anxious: You love deeply but worry constantly about being left. You need lots of reassurance, analyze every text, and sometimes come on too strong. You're highly empathetic but can be emotionally intense.
In relationships: "I love you so much - do you still love me? Are we okay? Why didn't you text back?"
Values independence, uncomfortable with closeness
You if Avoidant: You're self-reliant and hate feeling trapped. You pull away when things get too intense, struggle to express emotions, and often end relationships when they require more commitment.
In relationships: "I care about you but I need my space. Let's not make this too complicated."
Mix of anxious and avoidant, unpredictable
You if Disorganized: You want close relationships but they terrify you. You're hot and cold, sometimes clingy and sometimes distant. Past trauma may make intimacy feel dangerous.
In relationships: "Come here, go away. I love you, this scares me. I don't know what I want."
Your attachment style, formed in early childhood, shapes how you approach ALL relationships - romantic, friendships, family, even work relationships. It's your unconscious relationship blueprint.
How you love, fight, and commit
How close you get and how you handle conflict
Understanding your patterns and triggers
Questions about how you feel and behave in close relationships
Discover your primary attachment style with detailed explanations
See how friends perceive your attachment behavior
Yes! While attachment styles are relatively stable, they can change through positive relationships, therapy, and conscious effort. Many people move toward secure attachment over time.
Secure attachment is generally healthiest, but all styles developed as adaptations to your early environment. Understanding yours is the first step to growth, not judgment.
Absolutely! Your attachment style influences all close relationships - how you make friends, handle conflict, and maintain long-term connections.
That's normal! Most people have a primary style but show traits of others in different situations or with different people. Our test identifies your dominant pattern.